Since this meant the wedding fees would be much lower (to share the altar with four score and seven other couples), I asked if I could have my wedding then. I was told, "If you could book a groom by then, go ahead." I laughed. Then I looked at our clubhouse. Then I looked at my friend's white car. I asked him, "Can I borrow this as wedding car?" He said, "Be my guest. But the groom has to be captured first."
This started off all sorts of ideas on how Ate Ella could find a suitable groom. I already had the church, the choir, the clubhouse, and the car. One young friend of mine suggested that there should be an advertisement, "Huge Savings If You Marry Ate Ella." They assigned someone to look for potential husbands for me. I laughed with them. There were suggestions to just marry anyone, to meet the deadline of submission of required documents. I laughed some more. This was not the first time we were having this kind of conversation.
Then I got home, had lunch with my parents, cooked dinner, folded the laundry, and got to thinking that I was not in a rush. I don't need the "discount". I am happy where I am. Marriage is not necessarily a happier place. In fact, if I ask a lot of friends, it isn't happy at all.
I have been thinking that being by myself, serving God, having wonderful friends and family, traveling at least once a year, indulging in my passions, expressing my talents, and learning new skills, I am so happy already. I could live with this for the rest of my life.
I'm just not sure if I'm meant to. But that's a question to be answered another day.
